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a road map of friendships.

Mapa vial de Chile (Chile road map)
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We have moved quite a bit in our 10 1/2 years of marriage. I’ve had the blessing of meeting lot of new friends. But I’ve also experienced the hardship of saying goodbye to friends. At first, I was not that good. I didn’t want change. I expected friends and friendships to stay the same. I held on real tight, squeezed my eyes shut and hoped for the best. I also killed myself trying to keep up with EVERYONE. As you can imagine, that didn’t go so well. There were unmet expectations, hurt and inevitably there was change.

After some practice, whether I wanted it or not, I’ve learned a few things. I picture a big map with roads of different kinds going in all different directions. Some road are your major highways, strong and steady. Others are your country roads that are there for awhile but then just kinda end. Sometimes roads go under construction. They change direction, need repair, become bigger or smaller. It just happens. At times the terrain is real tough. Other times you are smooth sailing. I am always thankful for new roads being built. Whatever it is, all these road take us some place. They intersect with each other just at the right time.

I view my friendships with people as these roads. There are friends I have that are strong and steady. They are the main roads in my life. Other friends have come and gone with change of location and season of life. I have had friendships look different at different times. I am thankful for new friendships in my life. I love when the Lord allows lives to intersect just at the right time. Although it is hard at times, I’ve learned to trust Him with my friendships. Even in the change, even when friendships are hard and messy. I’ve learned when to hold my friendships close and when to let go. I’ve learned to have an open hand.

I trust that he sees the whole map. He knows where I am going, who will be my side. And best of all He knows the map of my heart.


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I'm a wife to 1 amazing husband. A mom to 1 little dude and 2 girlie girls. A follower of the ONE who saved me. A daughter to 2 wonderful people. A sister to 1. A friend to many. A runner because that's what I do to keep from not going crazy. And the CEO of this little part of the world we call home.


  1. Jenn lamb says

    I have been loving your posts lately!! This one really spoke to my heart as I am really wanting this. Change is so hard for me. But glad hear it gets easier

  2. This post comes at a perfect time this morning for me. I was just thinking about how God had placed you and Cassi in my life at the perfect moment this morning as I prepared for the day and prayed for you both. Then I read this!! It is a blessing to see whom God places along these winding roads of our journey with Him!

  3. Cassi says

    My lifes like this too and now being in camp ministry and not very many good friends locally I’ve thought how grand it would be to bring my scattered friendships all together. But then, not really. Just as you’ve said, they are perfectly placed in perfect time. I’m thankful for this reminder today! Reminds me to be glad about His provision and his time! Thx for sharing!

  4. I love how God got super clever when he brought the 3 (me, you and Christie) of our paths to intersect! A++++ God. Well done!!!

  5. Thanks Jenn! I appreciate you saying that and I’m happy you are reading. It does get easier. Really it does. Lean and trust on him friend! And give that new little guy a squeeze for me:)

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